Saturday, September 19, 2009
Adjusting is one of the hardest things to do once you have gone into a new place, next is trust, and so on. But, in your entire years of existence, when and what was your biggest adjustment? I mean, what was your experience that almost choked you ’coz of shame in adjusting with your new environment? Did it happen when you move into a new house, or school? Or joining new Sorority, fraternity or club? Maybe every tomorrow comes is a new day of adopting and learning and everyone experiences it.
Everyone must remember that “We cannot please everybody.” Yeah. That’s true. Everyone has different understanding and acceptance of things. Not all has a good judgment of you. Most of them think all the negative things they can notice in you. But, what should you do as you knew it?
a. Avoid them and try to get close to those who found you good.
b. Still continue living and ignore them.
c. Get close to them despite of their murmurs.
d. Prove them that they’re wrong.
e. Start courting them. Give gives and false compliments
f. Kick their big balls and asses as you hear them.
g. Assassinate them, kill their girlfriends/boyfriends.
h. Tie their tongues and get their eyes out of their face.
i. Pray for their souls.
j. Study witchcrafts to curse them.
k. Or, get a knife and tell yourself, “My life is nonsense because they hate me. I’ll end it here.”
l. Stuck yourself in the darkest place and be an EMO.
If you can only choose letters f, g, h, and j, from the list, why not. However, we can’t do those things against them. Once someone did something bad unto you, go get the M16 of your grandpa and kill him. Just kidding. Of course, you’ll do well in return. It isn’t about being martyr or so, but it is about gaining their trust to have new companies or better, friends. I know some will say that you’re a bunch of “plastic,” well, who cares? They are not the only ones who are willing to be your friend. Like what I say, you can’t please them. If they really don’t want to be your friend, then fine. Don’t drop your ego to heck for them.
Let’s move on to that topic. Let’s go to some experiences in your life where you actually did a really big adjustment.
Maybe when you were a little kid before, the biggest adjustment you ever had experienced was when you enter school and your mom secretly left you to go work. You trust her that she wouldn’t leave you. But when your consciousness was gone, she would teleport in her office. And once you turned back to the window where she waved at you moments ago, she was gone. And then you started crying and wailing. You broke all the glasses of the windows; you punched your teacher and broke all the crayons of your classmates. How was that? And as your mom came back again, it seemed that your world turned into heaven, and the principal stopped praying for you to calm. Well, it was really hard to adapt in new school, meeting new monstrous faces, that the only angel was your mom. However, as time passed by, you would get in to it until the time you were the one who was forcing your mom or your nanny to leave and never come back again. At first, your classmates thought that you were a crying baby, but when you actually know them, and so them to you, you became good friends. But that was when you were a little boy. It is really different as you grew up and meeting again different humanoids now.
Once you have entered high school, it is really different than that of grade school students even with preschool students. It is never about “Hindi na kita bati,” “Huwag mo na nga kausapin yan,” or even “Ang damot mo naman,” and “Lagi mo na lang akong niaaway,” whenever you are having an enemy or starting a fight. It is now about starting to be independent and finding for a lifetime friends. Once you piss someone of, it doesn’t take only for an hour or a day for him to forgive you. It can take months or years before he really accepts your apology. I guess that’s how teenagers welcome one another. They expect deeper understanding but less open-mindedness to one another. Also, they become more judgmental and less considerate of new people. Instead believing in the saying “first impression never last,” they do the other thing, most of them. Instead of knowing him more, they stick on what they have observed without asking him. It’s unfair. What would be the response of the victims of their judgmental minds and critic eyes? Well, maybe they got frightened and avoid them, or they will be the most rivals inside the class.
There will always be a bad result once you’ve started it wrong. Since you are new with everything in high school, you must not prioritize whatever they say against or favor of you. You shall do some step-by-step things that will make it easier for you to get along with them. (These ways are only my own ideas. These don’t mean that it will really happen. There is no basis of concluding this. It is still up to you if it’ll work in good or not)
a. Be a keen observer of your new environment.
b. Always put smile in your face whenever you enter the room or you talk to others. It will feel them that you are very glad to talk or to know them.
c. Once they say something funny or the whole class laugh, well you shall join the fun. Not literally laugh hard as well, giggle or grin is enough.
d. Introduce yourself nicely. Don’t brag everything at once.
e. Don’t be too loud. Others hate persons who are so “papansin.”
f. Don’t be so fool or boastful.
g. Don’t let them step on you. You must speak or fight for yourself but in a nice way.
h. I know that your first companion will be your seatmate. Start gaining friends in your row. That will be your first step of having friends.
i. Though you don’t want the one who seats beside you and you’re wishing to be with that nice guy or cute girl on the next side of the class, well, approaches him/her as class ends or when it is your break time.
j. Be yourself
k. Lastly, don’t let shame conquer you.
I guess those can help you to adjust. Well, it really doesn’t matter if you will follow me or not. What matters here is you are trying your best for them to like you.
I have been discussing two particular situations of adjusting in life. Well, maybe the next thing is adjusting yourself in having a commitment and losing your loved ones. Both sound serious especially because it talks about love and emotions, pain and hatred, qualm and satisfaction, envy and acrimony. Well, that is too deep.
How’d you able to accept things when you love at the wrong time with the right man? Like in the song, well I can’t bring to mind the title. It is really a hindrance for you and your partner. You are fighting against the people surrounds you, those who strongly disagree of your relationship. You have two things to choose from for this, either you stop having a relationship with her, or you will fight for your love though something is wrong. I know you will ask yourself that, “Why do they have to get in to ours if they have their own life?” Well, you know why? It’s human phenomenon. They judge people or getting themselves with others’ life. You can’t do anything but to follow your heart and what you think is right, or follows their minds, and what for them is better. Again, it’s unfair. But you know what; some successful stories of fighting for love are everywhere. However, some of them died together, and others live in poverty. (I’m out of the topic…darn!)
I think the first thing to do when you need to adjust with that kind of society is to tell them and prove them how you really love each other. In such way, what I used to watch with films, they talked in the middle of the crowd, and explain everything, they try to get close with others until some rumor makers observed them that they were nice and spread it all over the community. Also, they never did badly against them. What I am writing here is against my ideology. Honestly, why you should please them? It is them. You cannot change them in the way you want them to be. If you can’t stand living there, then move on other house, in a place that is really far from them. I guess, with that you could have a peaceful and quiet life. Trust me. Topic closes here.
Next, is adjusting or shall I say “moving on” from being broken and jaded because of love. Well, it really doesn’t mean that it is only about boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, but also on having a broken family or so. But then, I’ll focus on love as in boyfriend/girlfriend matter, because that is what I know for now.
Maybe losing the one you really love, the one who you really consider for lifetime, is one of the most painful thing you’ll feel, right? Of course. Things are very different before you were together and today you are alone. Actually, moving on with this kind of situation is really hard. It don’t take only for month or two, but maybe for years if you relationship gone beyond 2 years or more. Persons who are experiencing this are undergoing with “grief,” or long-time of sadness. They become emo at heart and telling themselves, “Fix me, I’m jaded,” or “I don’t want this kind of life,” then they cry a river, or become more suicidal. That happens if you broke up without any clarity, when he/she has another, or he did not go to you wedding.
I am not in the position to give advice because I don’t experience those yet. However, I’ll still give pieces of advice for you folks, I know some will question these saying “How’d you know or conclude those stuffs if you don’t experience the feeling of being broken,” or “It is easy for you to say and advice because you don’t know how it feels like.” Well, I don’t care about your words; at least I know for myself what to do when I am in your situation freak! Ok, back to reality :D
* Why you cry for over a lifetime if you were born in this world without him?
I guess I have a point here. You should not stop living when he left you; in fact, it is a sign that you should start a new life, a better life rather without him.
*Get yourself busy (in sports, books, community, family, etc.) for you not to remember him always.
With this kind of mind setting, your time will mostly spend in to your business or interests. You will have a less time thinking and remembering of everything about you and him. Moreover, you will become more outgoing or physically and mentally healthy.
*Think that he is not the only important thing in this world that should be treasured of.
Remember, your boy or your girl is not the most important organism. There are still others who are seeking for your attention and love. Give them a chance to feel your existence.
*Be an optimist.
Being an optimist isn’t about fooling yourself or blinding yourself to the painful truth; instead, it is about a widely moving on for you. You just don’t want to feel pity for yourself, and you really shouldn’t do that.
*Be more “pihikan” with relationship.
You should now learn your lessons from him. For the next time that you will have a relationship, don’t give too much trust that fast. Be a good observant, however, learn to appreciate.
*Avoid going, looking, or/and doing of the same things you used to share or have before.
If you really want to move on, avoid those stuffs that easily reminding him, such as photos, same meal you ordered, drinks, parks or pubs, etc. If you can do, throw everything or donate all the material things he gave you before.
*Use your mind to control you, not your heart.
It could make you decide strongly for yourself. You wouldn’t be weak and shallow again, like before.
I guess, those that are written there could help you to move on. Just practice it properly.
Actually, you can take all your time just to recover, however, still remember the first rule of life, and “Never waste time.” Ha-ha-ha.
There are so many things that you could actually connect with the word, “ADJUST.” Either negative or positive, or being trust or condemn. However, people aren’t all the same, especially with attitudes and perceptions. However, you should also know how to get with them. You should not wait for them to approach you. You must also help yourself to be familiarized with everything. Thou shall not be judgmental ones for it won’t ever help you. You may have an opinion but never stick to it. Be keen. Be simple. Be positive. Be a trust worthy. Be yourself. I know someone or somehow, you can adjust without being hurt too much.
Everyone must remember that “We cannot please everybody.” Yeah. That’s true. Everyone has different understanding and acceptance of things. Not all has a good judgment of you. Most of them think all the negative things they can notice in you. But, what should you do as you knew it?
a. Avoid them and try to get close to those who found you good.
b. Still continue living and ignore them.
c. Get close to them despite of their murmurs.
d. Prove them that they’re wrong.
e. Start courting them. Give gives and false compliments
f. Kick their big balls and asses as you hear them.
g. Assassinate them, kill their girlfriends/boyfriends.
h. Tie their tongues and get their eyes out of their face.
i. Pray for their souls.
j. Study witchcrafts to curse them.
k. Or, get a knife and tell yourself, “My life is nonsense because they hate me. I’ll end it here.”
l. Stuck yourself in the darkest place and be an EMO.
If you can only choose letters f, g, h, and j, from the list, why not. However, we can’t do those things against them. Once someone did something bad unto you, go get the M16 of your grandpa and kill him. Just kidding. Of course, you’ll do well in return. It isn’t about being martyr or so, but it is about gaining their trust to have new companies or better, friends. I know some will say that you’re a bunch of “plastic,” well, who cares? They are not the only ones who are willing to be your friend. Like what I say, you can’t please them. If they really don’t want to be your friend, then fine. Don’t drop your ego to heck for them.
Let’s move on to that topic. Let’s go to some experiences in your life where you actually did a really big adjustment.
Maybe when you were a little kid before, the biggest adjustment you ever had experienced was when you enter school and your mom secretly left you to go work. You trust her that she wouldn’t leave you. But when your consciousness was gone, she would teleport in her office. And once you turned back to the window where she waved at you moments ago, she was gone. And then you started crying and wailing. You broke all the glasses of the windows; you punched your teacher and broke all the crayons of your classmates. How was that? And as your mom came back again, it seemed that your world turned into heaven, and the principal stopped praying for you to calm. Well, it was really hard to adapt in new school, meeting new monstrous faces, that the only angel was your mom. However, as time passed by, you would get in to it until the time you were the one who was forcing your mom or your nanny to leave and never come back again. At first, your classmates thought that you were a crying baby, but when you actually know them, and so them to you, you became good friends. But that was when you were a little boy. It is really different as you grew up and meeting again different humanoids now.
Once you have entered high school, it is really different than that of grade school students even with preschool students. It is never about “Hindi na kita bati,” “Huwag mo na nga kausapin yan,” or even “Ang damot mo naman,” and “Lagi mo na lang akong niaaway,” whenever you are having an enemy or starting a fight. It is now about starting to be independent and finding for a lifetime friends. Once you piss someone of, it doesn’t take only for an hour or a day for him to forgive you. It can take months or years before he really accepts your apology. I guess that’s how teenagers welcome one another. They expect deeper understanding but less open-mindedness to one another. Also, they become more judgmental and less considerate of new people. Instead believing in the saying “first impression never last,” they do the other thing, most of them. Instead of knowing him more, they stick on what they have observed without asking him. It’s unfair. What would be the response of the victims of their judgmental minds and critic eyes? Well, maybe they got frightened and avoid them, or they will be the most rivals inside the class.
There will always be a bad result once you’ve started it wrong. Since you are new with everything in high school, you must not prioritize whatever they say against or favor of you. You shall do some step-by-step things that will make it easier for you to get along with them. (These ways are only my own ideas. These don’t mean that it will really happen. There is no basis of concluding this. It is still up to you if it’ll work in good or not)
a. Be a keen observer of your new environment.
b. Always put smile in your face whenever you enter the room or you talk to others. It will feel them that you are very glad to talk or to know them.
c. Once they say something funny or the whole class laugh, well you shall join the fun. Not literally laugh hard as well, giggle or grin is enough.
d. Introduce yourself nicely. Don’t brag everything at once.
e. Don’t be too loud. Others hate persons who are so “papansin.”
f. Don’t be so fool or boastful.
g. Don’t let them step on you. You must speak or fight for yourself but in a nice way.
h. I know that your first companion will be your seatmate. Start gaining friends in your row. That will be your first step of having friends.
i. Though you don’t want the one who seats beside you and you’re wishing to be with that nice guy or cute girl on the next side of the class, well, approaches him/her as class ends or when it is your break time.
j. Be yourself
k. Lastly, don’t let shame conquer you.
I guess those can help you to adjust. Well, it really doesn’t matter if you will follow me or not. What matters here is you are trying your best for them to like you.
I have been discussing two particular situations of adjusting in life. Well, maybe the next thing is adjusting yourself in having a commitment and losing your loved ones. Both sound serious especially because it talks about love and emotions, pain and hatred, qualm and satisfaction, envy and acrimony. Well, that is too deep.
How’d you able to accept things when you love at the wrong time with the right man? Like in the song, well I can’t bring to mind the title. It is really a hindrance for you and your partner. You are fighting against the people surrounds you, those who strongly disagree of your relationship. You have two things to choose from for this, either you stop having a relationship with her, or you will fight for your love though something is wrong. I know you will ask yourself that, “Why do they have to get in to ours if they have their own life?” Well, you know why? It’s human phenomenon. They judge people or getting themselves with others’ life. You can’t do anything but to follow your heart and what you think is right, or follows their minds, and what for them is better. Again, it’s unfair. But you know what; some successful stories of fighting for love are everywhere. However, some of them died together, and others live in poverty. (I’m out of the topic…darn!)
I think the first thing to do when you need to adjust with that kind of society is to tell them and prove them how you really love each other. In such way, what I used to watch with films, they talked in the middle of the crowd, and explain everything, they try to get close with others until some rumor makers observed them that they were nice and spread it all over the community. Also, they never did badly against them. What I am writing here is against my ideology. Honestly, why you should please them? It is them. You cannot change them in the way you want them to be. If you can’t stand living there, then move on other house, in a place that is really far from them. I guess, with that you could have a peaceful and quiet life. Trust me. Topic closes here.
Next, is adjusting or shall I say “moving on” from being broken and jaded because of love. Well, it really doesn’t mean that it is only about boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, but also on having a broken family or so. But then, I’ll focus on love as in boyfriend/girlfriend matter, because that is what I know for now.
Maybe losing the one you really love, the one who you really consider for lifetime, is one of the most painful thing you’ll feel, right? Of course. Things are very different before you were together and today you are alone. Actually, moving on with this kind of situation is really hard. It don’t take only for month or two, but maybe for years if you relationship gone beyond 2 years or more. Persons who are experiencing this are undergoing with “grief,” or long-time of sadness. They become emo at heart and telling themselves, “Fix me, I’m jaded,” or “I don’t want this kind of life,” then they cry a river, or become more suicidal. That happens if you broke up without any clarity, when he/she has another, or he did not go to you wedding.
I am not in the position to give advice because I don’t experience those yet. However, I’ll still give pieces of advice for you folks, I know some will question these saying “How’d you know or conclude those stuffs if you don’t experience the feeling of being broken,” or “It is easy for you to say and advice because you don’t know how it feels like.” Well, I don’t care about your words; at least I know for myself what to do when I am in your situation freak! Ok, back to reality :D
* Why you cry for over a lifetime if you were born in this world without him?
I guess I have a point here. You should not stop living when he left you; in fact, it is a sign that you should start a new life, a better life rather without him.
*Get yourself busy (in sports, books, community, family, etc.) for you not to remember him always.
With this kind of mind setting, your time will mostly spend in to your business or interests. You will have a less time thinking and remembering of everything about you and him. Moreover, you will become more outgoing or physically and mentally healthy.
*Think that he is not the only important thing in this world that should be treasured of.
Remember, your boy or your girl is not the most important organism. There are still others who are seeking for your attention and love. Give them a chance to feel your existence.
*Be an optimist.
Being an optimist isn’t about fooling yourself or blinding yourself to the painful truth; instead, it is about a widely moving on for you. You just don’t want to feel pity for yourself, and you really shouldn’t do that.
*Be more “pihikan” with relationship.
You should now learn your lessons from him. For the next time that you will have a relationship, don’t give too much trust that fast. Be a good observant, however, learn to appreciate.
*Avoid going, looking, or/and doing of the same things you used to share or have before.
If you really want to move on, avoid those stuffs that easily reminding him, such as photos, same meal you ordered, drinks, parks or pubs, etc. If you can do, throw everything or donate all the material things he gave you before.
*Use your mind to control you, not your heart.
It could make you decide strongly for yourself. You wouldn’t be weak and shallow again, like before.
I guess, those that are written there could help you to move on. Just practice it properly.
Actually, you can take all your time just to recover, however, still remember the first rule of life, and “Never waste time.” Ha-ha-ha.
There are so many things that you could actually connect with the word, “ADJUST.” Either negative or positive, or being trust or condemn. However, people aren’t all the same, especially with attitudes and perceptions. However, you should also know how to get with them. You should not wait for them to approach you. You must also help yourself to be familiarized with everything. Thou shall not be judgmental ones for it won’t ever help you. You may have an opinion but never stick to it. Be keen. Be simple. Be positive. Be a trust worthy. Be yourself. I know someone or somehow, you can adjust without being hurt too much.
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