Tuesday, November 10, 2009
DISAPPOINTMENT
In this topic, I know I can relate myself easily. In my years of living, I experienced so much disappointment in my life. Not as much as what others had, but such disappointment that a teenager could ever possibly encountered. Anyway, this is my next entry, after the “ADJUSTMENT.” I am not expecting you to read it or so, however, I just wanted to share ideas, pieces of advice and stories about my topic.
Maybe, the feeling of being frustrated or disappointed is what we avoid of. Well, who likes it anyway? People tried their very best for them not to feel bad with things. In contrary, people really expect too much that in the end, they never come up of it, how disappointing. Somehow, people are the ones who did their own disappointment in life, but they can’t accept it, so they blame it to others, which is unfair.
What are the things that really give you disappointment? When someone or somebody rejected you? When someone or somebody broke his promise? When you were failed to get the grade you wished of? When your dad gone abroad expecting him to be in your graduation? Or when you were looking up to something that you couldn’t reach? (Not the literal one) There are so many things that made you mad, things that brought wrinkles on your face. Oh well, you should really try not to encounter those.
Actually, I recently encountered one thing that really disappoints me to heck. Though you don’t want to read my story, I don’t care. I still want to write whatever I want.
For once, excitement put me into heaven. The thought of seeing and enjoying the rest of the day with one you really missed really brought joy to me. Well, it happened. I saw him and had fun with him. However, I was very disappointed of what he had said to me. I thought, he would be very glad to go with me but I’m wrong. He had other errands after we met. Actually, I wouldn’t feel bad if he had just told me so. The nerves of him! As he told me that he couldn’t accompany me and his friends or his group mates were waiting for him, I didn’t know what and how to react. I was shocked and for a short time, I felt nothing. I really wanted to slap his face hard, but I couldn’t. It seemed that my body got stuck and I couldn’t even wink. When ‘I’ came back to myself again, I told him what was in my mind that time. I told him everything I did for me not to miss that day. I didn’t mean him to feel guilty, I just couldn’t keep it. He was really annoying that time. As I continued talking and saying sorry, my eyes got teary; not because he couldn’t come with me, but because of the frustration I felt that I couldn’t express.
I knew that I was wrong to expect too much, but I guess, I was on the right position to expect because he promised me that that tomorrow would be our day. It wasn’t my bad; it was him who had mistake. He didn’t do what he promised and he made me feel “pa-asa” onto him. Before our misunderstanding gone to far, I just allowed him to leave and I just put a big smile on my face for him not to feel so guilty and not to think too much. Why did I do that? I guess, part of being martyr, and not of being selfish. He explained that his agenda was for their finals, so why not allowing him?
At the end of the day, my happiness and excitement flew away and being replaced by disappointment. The only thing I did was sighed and tried to forget everything, looking on the positive side of the day and tried to overcome the negative ones. It’s very hard, and ‘till now, I can still remember and feel the frustration and disappointment I felt.
Oh well, back to reality. I know that situation isn’t yet the worst experienced I have, but still then, that’s the most recent one. How about you? What is your experience that put you into the end of your patience or down you ‘coz of displeasure?
As far as my observations are concern, I notice that most of discontent of many is because of their estate in life. I mean the jobs, families, works or so. Love is not included here. How did I say so? Because of the everyday problems we encountered. Also because, many ask themselves or blaming others of whatever they have today, especially the negative one. Right?
I usually observe and witness those everyday when we go to school. It is not me who have those disappointments in life, or in work in particular, but my mom. My mom is a college dean in the school I studied of. Well, as a dean, she resolves such problems in school and even with the students, she is mostly in charge of planning and negotiating for different school events or affairs, she is the one who did all the schedule of the students every semester, but of course with the help of her secretary. Sometimes, she can’t eat on the right time because of those stuffs. She can’t go to mall and relax herself because she has to work everyday and she has to do her responsibility as a mother. When she is very pushed to the end that she is lack of patience, she easily get mad or frustrated when someone or somebody do not do his or their work right. So, as her daughter, I must not add with her “Problem,” so whenever I go there, I always put a big smile on her face, ask her to eat and have a little chat so that she can relax for a while. I guess, for a parent, it really done something big, though for me, it is not really a business.
Honestly, I can’t give a right and effective advice for this topic, for I know, in order for someone to get away his ‘disappointment’ from him depends upon him. I mean, how willing is he to change stuffs that go round to his world. How willing he is to forgive someone and to give second chances or more to someone done wrong to him. It is really up to you. I might give some, but then, I know, not all could do it.
In my humble opinion, frustration isn’t really a problem to anyone, unless, you’re going deeply in an issue that you shouldn’t go with. Like involving yourself to someone’s dilemma about something that doesn’t match your taste, as in you really feel disgusted about it. Of course, since it isn’t in favor of you, you will really feel disappointed, nevertheless, you really understand the situation, and that’s another thing.
Speaking of involving yourself on someone’s problem, why do people insisting themselves in such issues that they should not get involve greatly or being affected? Try to notice it with some of your friends. Though she is your friends, sometimes, whenever you open up stuffs to her it seems that she is more disgusted than you or anyone that is more riveted. Say for an instance that your classmate told you that her boyfriend and her having some misunderstanding.
A- You
B- Your classmate
The conversation goes like this…
A: Girl, what’s wrong? You do not look good today.
B: No, it’s nothing. I’m fine, thanks.
A: C’mon, your eyes don’t tell lies to me. What’s your problem, maybe I can help.
B: Well, my boyfriend and I having a misunderstanding. It isn’t really a big issue but it’s becoming one.
A: What do you mean? What’s that issue?
B: I told him that I don’t like him getting much with other girls even in the internet but I’m not saying that he shouldn’t make friends with girls, but to lessen his sweetness with them knowing that he had a girlfriend now.
A: and what did he say?
B: he said that he’s not doing anything wrong. He also said, “Ano ba naman yan, are you losing your trust for me? Isn’t it enough that we’re together,” those stuffs, that hurt me.
A: What’s with your boyfriend, he can’t get what you are pointing to. He can’t understand what you feel with that matter.
B: I want to talk to him now, but I think he’s avoiding me.
A: Why’d you have to approach him? He causes the problem in the first place.
B: It’s still nice if we decipher it now before something will be added that will change the story.
A: What?!? Don’t let your ego down. If I were you, I won’t be that good to him. I’ll let him realize my point as well as his mistakes. Nerves of him!
B: (What’s with her? She looks more affected and irritated than I.)*While A is saying all her side and how frustrated she is.*
A: (blah…blah…)…he doesn’t know to respect you.
B: Thanks friend for listening. (I have to end this up now. It will take me forever before she stopped. My ears are bleeding now, hearing all her false advice.)
A: You’re welcome. Just tell me if he hurts you again and…
B: I will. Bye.
Now tell me, in that situation, did A really help B to solve her problem? A big NO! NO! Right? Obviously, she didn’t give anything right; she just nagged and nagged about the boyfriend. Oh well, I don’t want to note much on that, I remember something, something evil.
Based from the book entitled, Hand me over the chocolate before I somebody gets hurt, Karen Scalf Linamen, I read, we should not let our grudges grow and eat us; eat our personality, our existence. We shouldn’t let those grudges conquer as. Those grudges that I am talking about are anger, madness, disappointment, loneliness, grief, and other negative emotions you could ever feel. Be positive and overcome your weaknesses. Improve yourself and your life style. Seek for your family, friends or even His help. They will really help you. Ask for good advice from the expert. Read and read, you might learn from those.
You should not feed your disappointment. Try not to make your burden grow by not thinking negatively and having self-pity. Stop blaming others. Look at yourself and realize your mistakes.
In this topic, I know I can relate myself easily. In my years of living, I experienced so much disappointment in my life. Not as much as what others had, but such disappointment that a teenager could ever possibly encountered. Anyway, this is my next entry, after the “ADJUSTMENT.” I am not expecting you to read it or so, however, I just wanted to share ideas, pieces of advice and stories about my topic.
Maybe, the feeling of being frustrated or disappointed is what we avoid of. Well, who likes it anyway? People tried their very best for them not to feel bad with things. In contrary, people really expect too much that in the end, they never come up of it, how disappointing. Somehow, people are the ones who did their own disappointment in life, but they can’t accept it, so they blame it to others, which is unfair.
What are the things that really give you disappointment? When someone or somebody rejected you? When someone or somebody broke his promise? When you were failed to get the grade you wished of? When your dad gone abroad expecting him to be in your graduation? Or when you were looking up to something that you couldn’t reach? (Not the literal one) There are so many things that made you mad, things that brought wrinkles on your face. Oh well, you should really try not to encounter those.
Actually, I recently encountered one thing that really disappoints me to heck. Though you don’t want to read my story, I don’t care. I still want to write whatever I want.
For once, excitement put me into heaven. The thought of seeing and enjoying the rest of the day with one you really missed really brought joy to me. Well, it happened. I saw him and had fun with him. However, I was very disappointed of what he had said to me. I thought, he would be very glad to go with me but I’m wrong. He had other errands after we met. Actually, I wouldn’t feel bad if he had just told me so. The nerves of him! As he told me that he couldn’t accompany me and his friends or his group mates were waiting for him, I didn’t know what and how to react. I was shocked and for a short time, I felt nothing. I really wanted to slap his face hard, but I couldn’t. It seemed that my body got stuck and I couldn’t even wink. When ‘I’ came back to myself again, I told him what was in my mind that time. I told him everything I did for me not to miss that day. I didn’t mean him to feel guilty, I just couldn’t keep it. He was really annoying that time. As I continued talking and saying sorry, my eyes got teary; not because he couldn’t come with me, but because of the frustration I felt that I couldn’t express.
I knew that I was wrong to expect too much, but I guess, I was on the right position to expect because he promised me that that tomorrow would be our day. It wasn’t my bad; it was him who had mistake. He didn’t do what he promised and he made me feel “pa-asa” onto him. Before our misunderstanding gone to far, I just allowed him to leave and I just put a big smile on my face for him not to feel so guilty and not to think too much. Why did I do that? I guess, part of being martyr, and not of being selfish. He explained that his agenda was for their finals, so why not allowing him?
At the end of the day, my happiness and excitement flew away and being replaced by disappointment. The only thing I did was sighed and tried to forget everything, looking on the positive side of the day and tried to overcome the negative ones. It’s very hard, and ‘till now, I can still remember and feel the frustration and disappointment I felt.
Oh well, back to reality. I know that situation isn’t yet the worst experienced I have, but still then, that’s the most recent one. How about you? What is your experience that put you into the end of your patience or down you ‘coz of displeasure?
As far as my observations are concern, I notice that most of discontent of many is because of their estate in life. I mean the jobs, families, works or so. Love is not included here. How did I say so? Because of the everyday problems we encountered. Also because, many ask themselves or blaming others of whatever they have today, especially the negative one. Right?
I usually observe and witness those everyday when we go to school. It is not me who have those disappointments in life, or in work in particular, but my mom. My mom is a college dean in the school I studied of. Well, as a dean, she resolves such problems in school and even with the students, she is mostly in charge of planning and negotiating for different school events or affairs, she is the one who did all the schedule of the students every semester, but of course with the help of her secretary. Sometimes, she can’t eat on the right time because of those stuffs. She can’t go to mall and relax herself because she has to work everyday and she has to do her responsibility as a mother. When she is very pushed to the end that she is lack of patience, she easily get mad or frustrated when someone or somebody do not do his or their work right. So, as her daughter, I must not add with her “Problem,” so whenever I go there, I always put a big smile on her face, ask her to eat and have a little chat so that she can relax for a while. I guess, for a parent, it really done something big, though for me, it is not really a business.
Honestly, I can’t give a right and effective advice for this topic, for I know, in order for someone to get away his ‘disappointment’ from him depends upon him. I mean, how willing is he to change stuffs that go round to his world. How willing he is to forgive someone and to give second chances or more to someone done wrong to him. It is really up to you. I might give some, but then, I know, not all could do it.
In my humble opinion, frustration isn’t really a problem to anyone, unless, you’re going deeply in an issue that you shouldn’t go with. Like involving yourself to someone’s dilemma about something that doesn’t match your taste, as in you really feel disgusted about it. Of course, since it isn’t in favor of you, you will really feel disappointed, nevertheless, you really understand the situation, and that’s another thing.
Speaking of involving yourself on someone’s problem, why do people insisting themselves in such issues that they should not get involve greatly or being affected? Try to notice it with some of your friends. Though she is your friends, sometimes, whenever you open up stuffs to her it seems that she is more disgusted than you or anyone that is more riveted. Say for an instance that your classmate told you that her boyfriend and her having some misunderstanding.
A- You
B- Your classmate
The conversation goes like this…
A: Girl, what’s wrong? You do not look good today.
B: No, it’s nothing. I’m fine, thanks.
A: C’mon, your eyes don’t tell lies to me. What’s your problem, maybe I can help.
B: Well, my boyfriend and I having a misunderstanding. It isn’t really a big issue but it’s becoming one.
A: What do you mean? What’s that issue?
B: I told him that I don’t like him getting much with other girls even in the internet but I’m not saying that he shouldn’t make friends with girls, but to lessen his sweetness with them knowing that he had a girlfriend now.
A: and what did he say?
B: he said that he’s not doing anything wrong. He also said, “Ano ba naman yan, are you losing your trust for me? Isn’t it enough that we’re together,” those stuffs, that hurt me.
A: What’s with your boyfriend, he can’t get what you are pointing to. He can’t understand what you feel with that matter.
B: I want to talk to him now, but I think he’s avoiding me.
A: Why’d you have to approach him? He causes the problem in the first place.
B: It’s still nice if we decipher it now before something will be added that will change the story.
A: What?!? Don’t let your ego down. If I were you, I won’t be that good to him. I’ll let him realize my point as well as his mistakes. Nerves of him!
B: (What’s with her? She looks more affected and irritated than I.)*While A is saying all her side and how frustrated she is.*
A: (blah…blah…)…he doesn’t know to respect you.
B: Thanks friend for listening. (I have to end this up now. It will take me forever before she stopped. My ears are bleeding now, hearing all her false advice.)
A: You’re welcome. Just tell me if he hurts you again and…
B: I will. Bye.
Now tell me, in that situation, did A really help B to solve her problem? A big NO! NO! Right? Obviously, she didn’t give anything right; she just nagged and nagged about the boyfriend. Oh well, I don’t want to note much on that, I remember something, something evil.
Based from the book entitled, Hand me over the chocolate before I somebody gets hurt, Karen Scalf Linamen, I read, we should not let our grudges grow and eat us; eat our personality, our existence. We shouldn’t let those grudges conquer as. Those grudges that I am talking about are anger, madness, disappointment, loneliness, grief, and other negative emotions you could ever feel. Be positive and overcome your weaknesses. Improve yourself and your life style. Seek for your family, friends or even His help. They will really help you. Ask for good advice from the expert. Read and read, you might learn from those.
You should not feed your disappointment. Try not to make your burden grow by not thinking negatively and having self-pity. Stop blaming others. Look at yourself and realize your mistakes.
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